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Wednesday, June 21, 2006

FRIENDS (II)

well, the wise men said, we do not choose our destiny, it chooses us (refer saladin trailer).

i did not choose to be in this position. a girl said to me last week 'we did not choose to meet, we did not plan to meet' and ...

anyway, i am the only malay and practising muslim in my class. In my first year, i used to attend my lectures regularly, sat in one corner without talking to anyone, and at the end of the day, went home. Imagine the whole cycle 9-5 almost everyday. Things got better in my second year, and the third and fourth.

I got along very well with people from the islamic society, mainly due to our common belief and similar codes of ethics. I have been a worker for the ISoc over the past four years, which allowed me to enjoy the ups and downs working for it. I was on the frontseat in a Yvonne Ridley's lecture which was eventually broadcasted on BBC, hence the up. I was also there trying to understand everything when a conflict between 2 camps started.

I always believe that a leader can always be a leader, in any situation he's in. With the charisma and leadership skills, there's no reason why a foreigner cannot lead a group of British people. This is a fact that needs attention. We always see that a Malay will feel inferior to these British people, and not taking up responsibilities if there's some British students in the group. If we look carefully, most of us have the required skills. Just look at our CV's, and how many of us were prefects, president, this and that when we were in secondary school? Some of us were headboys, deputies, presidents of the best socities whatsoever. The point is, everything goes to thin air when we come to the UK. The question of whether it is inferiority or it is laziness still needs answering.



Once the question was put forward to me. My answer was " We malaysians, we operate on the 'cometh the our, cometh the man' basis". That is quite fair i think. I was not that involved in the Isoc planning couple of years back. Everything changed when I was told to step in during the time of crisis. That was an Order from the president of that time. As much as i did not like the job, i knew that i had to do it, for the sake of Allah. And here came ta'ah, obedience to leader in islamic movement, which i found extremely lacking in ISoc members, especially in those who were brought up in this country.


Malay friends of my batch left uni last year, after finishing their respective courses in 3 years time. To be fair, our batch is not that big anyway. I had many good friends. One of them simply dissappeared into thin air after leaving Bristol. I believe that he has his own reasons, and as a good friend, i make du'a that he finds every success in whatever he does.

6 Comments:

Anonymous azad said...

Making friends with the Muslims here is very interesting. They're so particular on 'What is Halal n hat is haram?' kinda thing, which i think is very good. However, personally, i think that they, as a whole, are too comfortable in their community, which makes them feel that there's no need to mingle around with the whites around here.

Same goes to the Malaysians (huhu....how ironic~). I bet that many Malaysians, especially the malays, wont speak English more than 50 sentences a day, especially during the summer break. There you go.

Being in your comfort zone is definitely ok, it's not wrong. However, by putting a lil bit of pressure in our lives (through participating dalam macam2 bende), one can unleash the talent that's asleep within oneself for a very long time....

mana2 pun same je. Whites with the whites, Paki with the Pakis, Malays with the Malays.....huhuhu

5:15 AM  
Anonymous zacharias said...

well, that's one thing about us that needs to change. that's why i participate in the conservation work, voluntary activities in northern ireland etc. there's nothing to lose. this is the opportunity to mingle with people with different ideas.

there's also nothing wrong by mingling with british muslim (that includes pakistanis, bengalis etc), because at least you get the chance to improve your english, in a more protected environment

having said that, i do go join my classmates for certain activities, such as playing football. i also spent nights in their parents' houses just to know the culture.

-- birds of the same feather flock together--

7:38 AM  
Anonymous semi-anon said...

"The question of whether it is inferiority or it is laziness still needs answering."

It's both, and more. Period.

9:18 PM  
Anonymous azad said...

typical malays = pandang tinggi kat mat saleh

it's been like that since ages ago. our ancestors were proud when they received a cigarette from the Mat Saleh, what more becoming their office boy. Then our fathers went studying here in UK/Europe/US/etc, and they were amazingly proud of the culture here, and they told fantastic stories to their kids as if the Whites came down from heaven. The media also played a role in this issue. Their cartoons, movies, songs, theatre, etc bombarded our media fiercely, which had a great impact towards the mentality of the young minds of the Malaysians.

Tak salah nak tengok movie depa, baca buku depa etc. But somehow, bile dah sampai kat sini, make muncullah rase inferior, yg 'Whites are the best people' kinda mentality. Kene pulak d Whites like to argue and they wont mengalah easily.....

The Malaysians cant be blamed for being shy, as well as having the inferiority mindset. tapi sama sama kite sedarkan kite semua yg we can be better Malaysians if we know how to be so.

1:47 PM  
Blogger Zacharias said...

when watching a movie, we always focus our mind towards the actor/actress. we don't realise that our characters are whites too... the cleaners, the taxi drivers, the waiters/waitresses, and many others. they are human, just like us. if they can do it, why cant we?

the british government is revising the current academic system, and they plan to add another R to the 3-R education bases (Reading, wRiting, ARithmetic.. now ARticulate). they think articulation within their children needs improvement.

what do we say about how articulate our pupils are?

3:16 PM  
Anonymous azad said...

some of the Malaysian kids, young minds, nations future hope, whatever....might have the edge in expressing their unique ideas towards certain issues raised. Others are gifted with such wonderful talents (eg. Adiputra, n there's another boy whom is so good in medicine at the age of 8!, cant remember his name though). These are but a few great potentials of our pupils...

Many great thinkers come from the West. Why? tengok sendiri at how they raise their children. Those yang really interested in chess were given proper training, practice, etc so that chess will become their passion. the same goes to the sciences and arts fields. somehow, their education system taught them to think critically and not solely depending on what was given. That's why, years after years, all d great awards were given to these people. Where on earth are the Asians, kecik skop lagi, Malaysians? bukak skit scope, where are the Muslims?

Being articulate is very important, and it is still not too late to develop this skill....orang kecik ke, orang besar ke, sama je, asal smangat nak blajo tu ada, niat pun betul, inshaAllah. If the teachers teach these Malaysian pupils on how to become great people masa depan nanti, and ubah sikit approach tu, inshaAllah, masa depan anak2 kite nanti taklah 'typical' like what we had experience all this while.

We better teach them well coz they're the ones who'll pay our pensions...

5:38 PM  

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